Can We Just All Get Along, Part 3:

Part 1: https://howardmerrell.blogspot.com/2019/12/can-we-just-all-get-along-part-1.html
Part 2: https://howardmerrell.blogspot.com/2019/12/can-we-just-get-along-part-2.html

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All of them,
They always,
I don't need to talk to her; I already know what she thinks.

I think you can tell where I'm headed with that. Hold the thought for a minute, while I tell you about a road sign. Between here and Yigo (pronounced Jee-go, for you non-Guamanians) on what we call the "Back Road," there is a simple warning sign that says, "Slow Down." I use the sign as an illustration to talk about the difference between rhetoric and logic. Granted, rhetoric should be built on sound thinking, but there are trades to be made. When we are trying to speak in such a way as to persuade people, clear distinctions, and careful definitions may be left by the side of the rhetorical highway. Take the sign for instance. Clearly, the sign is wrong. Just as clearly, however, it communicates an important message.
Let's say my old truck is having a bad day and I'm chugging down the Back Road at all of ten miles an hour. Traffic is lined up behind me. I see the sign. Does it mean I'm supposed to slow down to five miles per hour? No. But, if we change the sign to read, "If you are driving too fast, slow down." aside from overfilling the space on the sign, the longer message loses the punch of the shorter version. The longer one is more accurate, but the shorter one probably communicates the intended message more effectively.
We crave simple, easily mastered one size fits all explanations. The problem is they don't fit all.
There is almost surely one of them who isn't like all of them.
They, at least some of them, don't always. . . .
And people are too complex for us to assume that we have their number, just because we know the cultural neighborhood they live in.
A few years ago I heard a lecture by an African man who spent the bulk of his childhood and teen years at a Muslim boarding school where he learned a conservative brand of Islam. Through a series of amazing, even miraculous events, he converted to Christianity. When I heard him, he was leading a ministry that helped Christians reach out to Muslims. One thing he said really stuck with me. "Islam is a system. A Muslim is a person."
As I've said in the last two posts, the fact that Christians are divided in an ugly way, over the impeachment and trial of President Trump, is sad. In the number two post on this topic, I point out that one way we do that is to see people with whom we disagree as "Others." "They aren't like me." Do you remember the joke, "I love mankind; it's people I can't stand"? The opposite is true, in the non-humor world. I can easily dislike an amorphous group--"them," or, "those people," or (fill in the blank). Often, though, if I get to know one member of that group, I find that I'm surprised. "He isn't what I expected.
Uncle Mc was blind as a result of his time as a POW in WW2. Uncle Mc grew up in the segregated South. In one of his many hospitalizations the nurse who cared for him most, and best, was a Black woman. Some who knew Uncle Mc were surprised that he praised this woman for her kindness, dedication, and skill. "Don't you know . . .?" Uncle Mc replied something like this, "If you have to tell me that she is Black, then it really doesn't make any difference does it?"

If you are only going ten miles an hour when you pass that sign on the Back Road, please don't slow down. Likewise, if you think you know your neighbor, or even more so fellow Christian, because you have heard what her group is like, don't stop there. Share a pizza, work on a project together, just do some life together. Likely, both of you will find out there is more to the other than you, or she, realized.

It's a place to start.

Can We Just Get Along, Part 2:

I don't remember whether it was Twilight Zone, Outer Limits, or some other show along that line, but I do remember the basic plot device of an episode. Two opposing groups were locked in deadly warfare. The story focused on one group "protecting" some important facility. Part of the soldier's training was that they were to wear this protective visor at all times. This would protect them from some blinding weapon that the enemy had.
The kick-in-the-gut ending came when some soldier lost his visor and found out that the hideous, insect-like creatures he had been killing in order to save his kind, were, in reality, people like himself.
Unfortunately, the syndrome happens in reality--sans special eyewear--all the time. I call it the "Other Syndrome." ( I don't think that is original with me.) If we see someone with whom we disagree as fundamentally other than we are, our tendency is to not treat them with the respect they deserve. I'll not supply any general examples, though they abound. Stop and think for a minute and come up with your own.

Specifically, the current divide among Evangelicals concerning President Trump is riff with the Other Syndrome. From Hilary Clinton's "Basket of Deplorables," to right-wing commentators who ridicule the left, to Galli's claim to be an elite Evangelical, to those who doubt the salvation of those on the other side, it is clear that one reason we can't have a civil discussion is we not only disagree with our opponents, too often we don't consider them worthy of civil discourse. I'm not saying there aren't real differences. There are. I'm saying we often don't treat others with respect, even in the church.

Let me illustrate the concept based on the politics/culture of the little city where I spent most of my adult life. In the 70s when I moved to the paper mill town where I ministered, there was plenty to argue about, but there was a certain level of civility as well. Mill managers and laborers had children who attended the same schools and played on the same sports teams. Often management and union members attended the same churches and ate at the same restaurants. One sat at a desk, the other carried a lunch box, but there was an awareness that in significant ways, "we are the same." In the last couple of decades, a "Brain-drain changed the character of things. The higher-level management no longer lived in our little town. They commuted in from 50 miles away. Doctors, lawyers, and even school teachers followed suit. It became easier to think of the other side as OTHERs, not like me. The community suffers because of that.

This is a bad thing in society in general. Within the church it is horrible. The fact that I always need to bring to the table is that any difference I have with a fellow believer pales in significance when I consider the sameness we have in Christ.

Lord, help me to think about that before I speak, write, or post.

Can We Just All Get Along? Part 1:

Mark Galli, Franklin Graham, and some friends of mine:
I realize that by writing this, I'm taking the role of someone who steps into a domestic dispute. Before I'm done both sides might decide to unite and fight with me rather than each other. I'm motivated to stick my nose in, however, because this is a squabble that is taking place between my friends. Though I've never met either, I regard both Mark Galli and Franklin Graham as friends. I have benefitted from both of their ministries. As soon as the matter hit the fan, so to speak, some of my personal friends began to weigh in. I felt like the host at a Thanksgiving feast when war-veteran Uncle Charlie, just couldn't resist commenting on Niece Suzie's "I love Jane Fonda" sweatshirt and the vegan meal she had packed in for the occasion.
At first, I thought I would write one big peace-making piece. Instead, I'm going to dole out my "wisdom" in bite-size servings. That way you can chew on each serving for a day or two before the next mouthful is served up.
Before I offer my first pacific hors d'oeuvres (note that's a lower-case "p"), let me review what I'm talking about.

• On December 19, Editor Mark Galli published an editorial in Christianity Today stating, "Whether Mr. Trump should be removed from office by the Senate or by popular vote next election—that is a matter of prudential judgment. That he should be removed, we believe, is not a matter of partisan loyalties but loyalty to the Creator of the Ten Commandments."
• Whatever is you may think of Galli--I have found him to be often helpful in pulling together various strands of thought in the Christian world--he is no dummy. I'm not saying that it was Galli's intention to stir up a ruckus with his frequent use of CT founder, Rev. Billy Graham's, name, but he had to have known that using Graham's name in this context could be seen as waving a red cape in front of a bull named Franklin.
• Franklin Graham, Billy's son, did not disappoint. He released a statement the next day. To no one's surprise, he disagreed with Galli. He did surprise some of us, though, when he revealed that his dad had voted for Mr. Trump.
• I have no idea how many opinion pieces followed. I saw several articles about an interview Galli did on CNN. Another article is a summary of an interview Galli had with New Yorker writer, Isaac Chotiner.
• Nothing much happens in our world without a petition or letter to sign. Not to disappoint, more than one-hundred Evangelical leaders signed a letter addressed to CT President Timothy Dalrymple. “Your editorial offensively questioned the spiritual integrity and Christian witness of tens-of-millions of believers who take seriously their civic and moral obligations.”
• Of course, Dalrymple responded, and 
• on it goes.

Let's begin by thinking about worldviews--perhaps philosophies or even Theologies are better words. What I'm talking about are those foundational truths on which we build the rest of our thinking. Our overall philosophy of life and our ethics which are part of that philosophy are based on the way we see the world. What makes the world tick? Or, perhaps more accurately, "What would make our world work the way it should?"
Since all Evangelicals, to one extent or another, hold in common the basic Gospel message of the death, burial, and resurrection of Christ and all that these fact mean, one would think that Evangelicals share the same worldview. One might think that, but one might be wrong. The Roman Catholic Church and the early reformers all subscribed to the same creeds, yet their differences fomented reformations, martyrdoms, and wars. The varying denominations in Christendom bear witness not to what they shared, but to that over which they differed.

The operative question is often not just, "What do you think is important? but, "What do you think is most important at this time, and how does that differ from what your neighbor thinks?"
Take the present bruhaha and dig down to the basic realities--as each side sees them--that lie below the surface. Here are two matters that both sides agree on, in principle, but about which they disagree mightily in degree and emphasis--abortion and social justice. Keeping our focus on the evangelical leaders who are in this argument, it is clear that both sides are prolife. Just reading the articles I mentioned above will make that clear. Once you get below that agreement in principle, however, we notice all sorts of differences. Is this the most important issue of our day? Is it so important that someone who is not prolife disqualifies themself as being worthy to hold public office? What about prenatal deformities, rape, or incest? How do we define "health of the mother"? What difference does the answer make?
Galli's writing and Graham's humanitarian work clearly show both to be dedicated to social justice. Just exactly how does one best address life's inequities? To what extent do people today have a responsibility to repair the social legacy of their less enlightened ancestors?
There is an old joke about politics. Elections are about choosing between "Tweedle Dum and Tweedle Dummer." (originally it was Tweedledee and Tweedledum, John Tenniel's illustration, from Through the Looking-Glass (1871)). Of course nobody in national politics is dum anymore. even if they are, brains can easily be hired. It seems that now the choice if often between Tweedle Bad and Tweedle worse. Deciding who is Bad and who is Worse is a matter of nuance. Answers to basic questions like those above are going to inform that choice. Good people will disagree.

Two more things, really quick:
Nobody wants to make an important decision based on 50.0001% certainty. In the same way that a fisherman's fish gets bigger each time he tells about his catch, decisions that barely more than a coin-toss to begin with, evolve into thunderous slam-dunks. Our craving for certitude drives us in that direction.
When our certitude is challenged we easily become like a potential mugging victim cornered in a dark alley. 2x4, rock, broken bottle, we desperately look for a weapon we can use in self-defense. In  the kind of fight this article is about, there is almost always piece of pipe nearby. It is about 2 feet long and has fitting on one end. Read the label--ad hominem, attack the spokesperson rather than what the spokesperson says.

In this case the spokesperson is me, so be nice. Chew on this until next time.
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The Wonder of Christmas, Don't Just Ooh and Aah. Live it.

Merry Christmas!

There is a tendency we humans have. It is often called "compartmentalization."

We have an ability to take certain thoughts, memories, and experiences and put them in a mental room--a place in our mind that we keep separate from everything else. I see moms do this when they suffer from some physical pain, yet wall that off from their everyday life in which they cook, clean, and make life good for the rest of us. We might say that kind of compartmentalization is good. Sometimes I have to deal with people I don't like. I need to keep my feelings separate from my need to do my job. I need to remember however that these compartments are never completely leak-proof. Big problems come when we attempt to compartmentalize issues that should be addressed and solved. This is especially true when we attempt to compartmentalize that which is explosive or corrosive. It will eventually get out.

But my purpose, today, isn't to talk about counseling. 

I observed in my pastoral ministry a tendency to compartmentalize when it comes to Theological truth. Now that I'm involved in Christian education, I am even more prone to build rooms in my

mind. "This is my Theological Truth Room. In this room, I believe that God is Lord. He is to be obeyed. I believe that all humans are created in God's image and are to be treated with honor, respect, and kindness. In my Theological Truth Room, I can tell you about inspiration and how the Bible is truly God's word.

I have the ability, however, to step outside of my Theological Truth Room and live the rest of my life as if none of that is true. 

Two things, I've read recently remind me of my tendency to compartmentalize Theological truth. One of them is a well-written 3-part series about the wonderful Theological truth we celebrate at Christmas. The other is a practical reminder I received from a missionary colleague.

"Tried With Fire: Like Jesus," by Kevin Bauder (Scroll down at the site and start with Part 1) takes on the difficult subject of the nature of Christ, the hypostatic union, the kenosis, in plain terms--the wonder of Christmas. The nature of the God-Man, Jesus Christ is at the heart of our faith. It is also at the fringe, or just beyond the edge of what we can comprehend. There is good reason that this truth occupied the best minds of early Christian history. It is a key part of our view of the Triune God. This saying that is frequently quoted about the doctrine of the Trinity, applies to the nature of Christ, as well..

The Trinity:

Try to Understand It

and You’ll Lose Your Mind.

Try to Deny It

 and You’ll LOSE YOUR SOUL!

(As a side-note, Fred Sanders has an interesting article on this, in which he says we don't know who said it first .)
Getting back to my main point, however, Bauder reminds us, referring to Philippians 2, that the wonder of the incarnation is not a Theological pearl to store away in the Theological Truth Room of my mind. It is a reality that should inform every aspect of my life. The way of thinking that led to God the Son's humiliation, should be my way of thinking. If Christ was willing to lay aside His honor for the sake of others (John 17, Phil. 2), then who do I think I am, when I claim that, or act as if, serving others is somehow beneath me? 

The truth of Christmas should not be remembered just during a certain season. Rather like the frankincense the wise men presented to Christ, gave a smell that permeated every part of the house, all my life should be informed by this sublime reality. I should not only proclaim with wonder that "God became man." I should live a life that is an appropriate response to the incarnation. I should live in the "Therefore" of Romans 12:1.

A friend is a missionary with another agency and a part of my Guam Church. 
She and her husband are on furlough, a strange (to others) part of the missionary occupation that involves visiting supporters. She writes:

Last Saturday, we spent part of the day with [some folk they know from the past at our Church]. They asked about many of you and send their greetings. At lunch they were telling one of their sons and his wife about their first Sunday at [our Church]. Right after the service, [a couple from our church] invited them to lunch at a restaurant. The [couple] didn't know them. The [visitors] felt so welcomed at [our] Church that they decided not to look anywhere else for a home church. So once again everyone can see how important is for everyone in our church [or any church, or a small Christian university] to do their part to make visitors feel welcomed.  

What this couple did for some visitors to their church has a direct relationship to the wonder we celebrate at Christmas. Why should I spend my time and money on strangers? I might not even like them.

Why? because of what Jesus did for us. As the Apostle John puts it, so succinctly, "We love because He first loved us" (1 John 4:19).

Open the door, let the wonder of Christmas spread through all your life. It is a truth too wonderful to keep in just one room.

 Merry Christmas!